Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Chicken Soup with the bully enablers...

Serial killers, mass murderers, and domestic terrorists can learn a lot about people by watching how the bulk of a community's population enables a relatively small proportion of bullies.

Artificial social structures like corporations and military units are shaped like pyramids. These structures are tools, created by people to fulfill a purpose and dissolved when they are no longer needed. Natural social structures are shaped like a diamond, a pyramid on top of an inverted pyramid. These structures are the products of nature, and like forgotten minefields they tend to endure long after their original purpose ceases to exist. Columbine High School, and a lot of other places proudly display just such a structure.

Here's how it works:

Draw a large, four-pointed (playing card style) diamond on a piece of paper. Draw two straight lines across the top and bottom 1/10th of the diamond to form two small triangles. The Pack Alphas occupy the top triangle and the Scapegoats occupy the bottom triangle. Scapegoats provide a convenient outlet for the routine and arbitrary cruelty of any Pack Alpha who feels the need to reinforce its authority and social status. An Alpha without a Scapegoat is like a Nazi without a Jew. There's no one to feel superior to and no one to use as an example for others to fear. The rest of the student body is scattered throughout the rest of the diamond with the bulk of the population tending to occupy the middle levels of status.

Other than the Alphas and Scapegoats, the other 80% of the student body fits very neatly into one or more of the following five groups of Enablers:

Group One - Toadying Sycophants: These individuals genuinely envy and admire the Pack Alphas and regularly complement and fawn over them in the hope of currying favor. Many of these individuals are best described as alpha wannabes and prey upon Scapegoats as much as or more than the pack alphas. This group also includes adults who look upon association with or overt displays of support for the local sports teams as a means of increasing their own status within the community. It's not unusual for fathers to push their male children into violent, competitive sports and for mothers to literally pimp their daughters to the football team in the hope that they'll become more popular. Kip Kinkel's father did this. He and his wife are dead now.

Group Two - Enabling Females: Enabling females generally fall into one of four categories:

1) Female Sociopaths enjoy watching people being harmed and often flirt with men in order to give their pack alpha a flimsy excuse to attack. Female Sociopaths often display the behavior of Alpha Females. One need look no further than South Hadley High School for a good example of their character.

2) Social Climbers hope to trade the use of their bodies in exchange for elevated social status, inclusion in a high status group, and of course, money. This is a bit like renting a hotel room by the hour. Obviously, they're willing to risk serious injury and are stupid enough to ignore the lessons of O.J. Simpson. The next time you read about a violent sociopath like Ryan Tucker, ask yourself why any female would go near him if he could not offer high social status and money.

3) Airheads are attracted to pack alphas because they're ignorant and hopelessly idealistic morons. This group consists of females who believe they can help their alpha male turn his life around and become a better person. A woman once left a comment on one of my blogs describing Ryan Tucker as "kind, amazing, gentle, and strong." Yeah, right. My local newspaper printed a story a few years ago where the girlfriend of an extremely violent criminal defended his character by stating, "He's a really nice guy as long as you don't provoke him." It's good to have an airhead in your corner.

4) Slaves are exactly what you think they are. Slavery as a legal institution where people are openly bought and sold like any other commodity no longer exists, but it's still practiced widely. In this weblog slavery will be defined as living in a situation where personal experience has taught you that you will be beaten, tortured, physically confined or restrained, isolated from routine contact with others, injured, or killed if you disobey a command or use forbidden words like no, stop, or goodbye. I'm not certain how anyone could take an accurate census of this condition, but I feel confident that hundreds of thousand of American women live with men who are, for all practical purposes, slaveowners.

From the Pack Alphas' point of view, the primary duty of Enabling Females is to reinforce the illusion that the Pack Alphas are irresistible to females. This illusion is absolutely critical to an individual Pack Alpha's ability to maintain its social status and the respect of its peers and immediate subordinates. Attempting to break off a relationship with a Pack Alpha is usually hazardous to one's health as successfully doing so undermines the pack alpha's illusion of irresistibility. Once again...remember what happened to O.J. Simpson's wife for daring to break up with him.

The Enabling Female's secondary duty involves satisfying the Pack Alpha's basic sexual needs by playing the role of a Penis Garage. A Penis Garage provides a place for the Pack Alpha to park his Humvee at night. Not every Enabling Female is required or even allowed to fulfill this duty. Being chosen to fulfill one's duty as a Penis Garage is after all, an honor. Most Enabling Females must satisfy their petty fantasies by fawning over the Pack Alphas in the vain hope of becoming one of the chosen ones and by constantly reminding those lucky enough to be chosen as a nighttime parking spot how lucky they are. In some circumstances, a Penis Garage is routinely reminded of her good fortune by other Enabling Females regardless of how abusive, controlling, or violent her Pack Alpha becomes. In other circumstances, Penis garages are preyed upon by other females who want to take her place.

Group Three - Cowards: Members of this group are terrified to appear critical of the Pack Alpha's behavior. In order to avoid appearing critical, the worst of these scumbags will shamelessly blame the Pack Alpha's criminal behavior on the victim. This is quite common in cases involving a popular athlete committing date rape but is most often seen when low status males are assaulted by high status males. In this regard, Columbine High School was far from unique. Cowards, particularly adults in authority are as common as flies in an outhouse.

Group Four - Calluses: These individuals are indifferent to the suffering of anyone chosen to be a Scapegoat by the Pack Alphas. The worst of this group displays the behavior of the reformed alcoholic by reminding anyone who complains about bullying that being victimized made them tougher or better.

Group Five - Oblivians: Anyone who attended an American high school remembers these individuals. They're the ones for whom everything seemed to fall into place. Usually these students possess good social skills because their parents are sane. They are usually decent looking, healthy, and intelligent for genetic reasons outside their control. And they expect to go to college because their parents have enough money to simply write a check. They are absolutely oblivious to the suffering and the cruelty going on around them. For them, the world is a wonderful place full of pretty girls, good looking guys, admiring teachers, and for most of us an unimaginable sense of well being. These people are not evil. They are simply clueless Oblivians.

Scapegoats provide a convenient outlet for the routine and arbitrary cruelty of any Pack Alpha who feels the need to reinforce its authority and social status. Scapegoats also provide a visual example for four of the other five groups to fear. Toadying Sycophants, Enabling Females, Cowards, and Calluses all live in fear of being demoted to the role of Scapegoat. Oblivians don't live in fear. They're just oblivious. The arbitrary punishment meted out to Scapegoats reminds everyone to conform and to accept the Pack Alpha's authority without question.

At Columbine, most of the Pack Alphas appeared to be athletes. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were obviously Scapegoats. And the rest of the student body fulfilled their roles as Enablers by supporting or ignoring whatever the Pack Alphas felt like doing to the Scapegoats. This created the illusion that the Columbine Killers targeted people indiscriminately. They did not. Given the absence of dead and wounded goths and other obvious oddballs, it seems reasonable to assume that Harris and Klebold intentionally avoided harming those whom they perceived as fellow Scapegoats.

Terrorists can learn almost nothing by studying what the killers did. They can learn much about the population they traditionally target by observing the behavior of bully enablers.

As one who is civilized enough to have earned the right to complain about terrorism would be caught dead enabling a bully.


  1. Lol, this is school in a nutshell....

    I guess E/D got tired of their status at the bottom and decided to "flip the diamond" so to speak while flipping the bird.


  2. Interesting list of "tags."

    Do you have an opinion regarding the behavior of enablers?

  3. Yeah....

    When you've been knee-deep in the shit, enablers looks just as bad as the ones shitting on you.

  4. Actually, many victims remember the enablers long more sharply than the bully. The Columbine killers must have been tearing their hair out every time someone cheered for one of Littleton's favorite sociopaths.

  5. Where di the word "long" come from. Ignore it.

  6. Replies
    1. Why don't you shut up, estupido? Fowl Ideas may not be perfect. But at least, he has good intentions. One example is that he takes initiative to make blogs against bullies and their supporters like the hypocritical and self-righteous Izzy Kalman. And I thank him (Fowl Ideas and not Izzy) for that.

  7. Rainman,

    Thank you for reminding me why Columbine is now remembered as an event instead of a flower or a school.

  8. Your explanation explains how my high school class ran. I didn't realize it until later because I was part of group five, however the I had friends in most of the enabler groups and was friends with a few of the scapegoats. I learned how things really were about a year after graduation. Bullying happens, although it may not be as extreme as Steubenville, or some other instances that have made the news.

  9. I’m curious about certain people who willingly and happily did most of the bullying dirtywork, but not sure what category they fall under.

    What they all had in common, was having some sort of unusual dysfunction or major screwup they wanted to keep under wraps. Substance dependency, deadbeat dad, having caused catastrophe somewhere, self-caused ugliness, unpopularity and insecurity due to basic asshole nature...

    They sucked up to alphas to hold their position but didn’t necessarily want to be an alpha. Their motive seemed to be a need to deflect negative attention from their own particular mess and onto the scapegoat. They usually appeared to fully believe the scapegoat deserved what they were getting and invested alot of energy in smearing them. Interestingly the alphas knew this, used them as tools, and often disposed of them after their usefulness was over.

  10. Here's another category. Authority. Yeah, they could easily fit under any enabler category, but it seems obvious to me that any authority in power could stop bullying with the proper effort and technique.

    1. All adults have to do, particularly adults in authority is to compare bullies to any other kind of bigots who have a pathological need to feel superior to someone and to make very clear that bullies, like feces, emerge from the orifice of family character.

      Attack the enablers and the problem is solved.